I did. My first time, admittedly, and I was nervous, but I did ask her out. Someone I knew said she wanted to go out with me, but he was lying, apparently. Oh well, he will die. Anyway, the girl I asked out was surprised and just smiled while saying "No thanks, sorry," and walked away. Not bad for my first time (I'm relatively young). Even if she didn't agree to going out with me, it gives me points. And it's better than some of you will ever do.
*sigh* I liked her, too, but judging from what happened today she will probably try to avoid me as much as possible. But that's normal, I just hope she doesn't think I'm a stalker or anything. However...as far as I know, I'm the first person to ask her out. And that means, whether she likes it or not, I'll be imbedded in her mind forever as being the first person to ask her out.
yeah, in my experience, if they don't say yes they do avoid you . man, talk about expenses. it sometimes seems that my girlfriend of 2.5 years gets to my paychecks before i do, because there is never anything left when i want something for me.
[edited to add words that were missing. the first sentence now makes sense]
You got the first step out of the way, and faced rejection too boot. Not that it is a good thing, but the very worst of it is over.......
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I WAS IN THE FUTURE, IT WAS TOO LATE TO RSVP
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Gotta say wow, because I have never asked a girl out. Been in a lot of 'situations', 'arrangements', 'entanglements'. etc.. (even though i chose the path of most laziness, not asking girls out. sheer probability has landed me with a few good things here and there.. kind of restores your faith in the universe when youre feeling glum. Except when you still arent getting any) One day when things are boring maybe we'll all pull up a thread and hear the history of Captain Mike and girls. Its quite enthralling I think.
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Hey Veers, congrats on yor first ummm....rejection. Lemme just tell you a few things that I've learned that may make your dating life a little easier.
In my experiences, you shouldn't ever feel like you're not good enough to ask a girl out. If you're in a high school sitcom drama like situation (which was often the case for me),then it'll be hard to pierce the social cliche aspect of asking a girl out. The bottom line is this: If your personalities connect, then there is no reason for you to hesitate to ask her out. Also think of dating this way: Its all about the sex. No, actually, I don't mean you should be having one-night stands or anything. Shit, no that would be bad. what I mean is that don't get too emotionally attached to your significant other. More serious relationships should come later, after you've figured out how the whole dating thing works.
And remember most of all.... have fun.
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It could've gone better Veers, but trust me, it could have gone much, much worse. If you don't believe me, I think the Major Barcalow vs. Girls thread is still up here somewhere....
I'm planning on asking someone out tonight after work. Making that call is the hardest thing.
I think the biggest thing when asking girls out (I'm far from being an expert, mind you) is to get a little small talk in first. Make 'em laugh, chat a little. Run into them a few times and establish a couple of commonalities. Then you have the chance to segue into "Hey, I'm going to grab a cup of coffee. Wanna join me?"
Being casual about the first "ask out" is a decent way to get a feel for interest level and at the same time makes future run-ins less uncomfortable in the case of a rejection.
But hey...if it makes you feel better...it never gets any easier