Well, not the sickness part, obviously, but all the rest of it. It's a kind of overload, really, and I can't remember how I ever get past it. I just do. Anger helps.

Unrequited love sucks. Eventually I just got fed up of having feelings for people who obviously weren't capable of seeing in me the 'good' qualities. . . of course, I now feel differently - that in fact I don't have any of the qualities that attract or interest members of the opposite sex (or my sex for that matter). So I've given up on relationships. It's just too much work for a personality as naturally abrasive as mine to try to make people like me.

Likewise, *ahem!* If this person is so ingmorant that he's not noticed your feelings or how much his badgering you for advice is combining with all your other problems, then either confront him about it or avoid him.

Isolation or denial maybe isn't the way to go, but it can be a starter. Identify the problem areas that can be put aside for now, insensitive friends for one, and concentrate on the really important pressing things, such as your health and your studies.

Remember, we're all here for you! 8)

I know him very well. You guys don't.

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"Okay, so I'm not "SANE" so to speak, but uh... I'm the lovable kind of psycho"
http://solareclipse.net/

She never said she liked me. Not even once. I wanted so badly for her to want me, just a little. But she didn't. And she never will. It took me awhile, perhaps far too long to realize it. I loved her, and she threw it back in my face. And for that, I don't think I could ever forgive her.

I finally made the decision to leave her behind. It was difficult, and it hurt, but I did it. I did because she was hurting me, flaunting the fact that many guys wanted to go out with her.

I wish I could provide you with a quick fix solution. One minute, and the pain will be gone. Unfortunately, I can't. But I can tell you that you'll get over it. It takes some time, but you will get over him. Just remember that there are more important things in life than that guy. You are one of them. If you need somebody to talk to Jubes, I'll always be here to listen. It's tough, but with your friends, you'll make it through.

I'm also a victim of unreturned love. This is my second time. However, it hurts more now with Heather than it did with Susan. And because I'm so screwed up and confused right now, I've almost ruined my friendship with Heather twice now thanks to my feelings and how I've acted (a very long story). This week, I'm supposed to talk to her about why I thought that she hated me so much.

If you ever need someone to talk to, you have lots of friends here who will listen to you, Jubilee. And I think almost all of us will understand where you're coming from.

I did not marry until I was in my late 30's. My non-theoretical experience with romance prior to that time would fill a disappointingly small pamphlet. You have my sympathy, but my experience is not up to providing wisdom specific to your situation.

What I do have to say is: Move along. If this guy can't appreciate your finer qualities after having sufficient time to become aware of them, he probably isn't. Replace him with someone who will give you love and respect.

--Baloo

Sorry, forgot myself.

As everyone else has said, move along. At least he knows how you feel. The only thing worse than unrequieted love, is when you are too scared to even make the other person aware of how you feel. It's better to have an answer, no matter how bad, than to spend the rest of your life kicking yourself for not speaking-up.

One of these days
You will look back in shame.
After you've learned
That a spark's not a flame.
You will regret
How you pushed love aside,
When you're married to nothing!
When you're misery's bride!

Burn your forget-me-nots
Admit that true love can die
No, I won't apologize, my love, just kiss me goodbye.

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"I'm sick, like Nixon was sick, my defeated heart keeps beating on. I won't die, like Chucky won't die."
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They Might Be Giants

I'm single. There are many reasons why, not least of which is the fact that I'm an unattractive uncharismatic creep in the eyes of the rest of the world. I can live with that, I have a hard time relating to morons anyway. Plus, after certain things that happened a long time ago, I'm never going to trust anyone that way, ever again.

Such is life.

But it seems that the biological urge to find a mate has such effects on people that I end up getting judged for NOT finding one by the very same ones who've already deemed me unsuitable!

And then of course there is the whole different social life that results: I've been excluded from events because I'm the single one.

And then, as has been mentioned by others, you have to listen to others' problems. People complaining endlessly about how awful their partner is. I long since gave up saying to them "then leave him/her" because of course that's NOT what they want to hear! Then once they've patched up their problems temporarily, they ignore you until the next time. . .

I say there's something about me that fundamentally rules out relationships. I've talked to many of my closest female friends about it, and they deny that. I get constant variations on the "I'd go out with you, but. . ." But what?! "But," as Samuel L Jackson might say, "don't mean shit!"

Anything else? *thinks*

Fortunately Mom like Mozart, and is hard of hearing.

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