I like my birthdays to be a day of solitary reflection & thought, to think about where I've been, wehre I'm going, what's gone right & what's gone wrong. Other people insist on asking me "what do you want for your birthday?" like it's a fucking obligation that they NEED to get me something. when I tell them I don't really care if I get something or not & that if I jhave to TELL them what to get me, then there's no point, is there...they get pissy; a gift should be JUST that--a GIFT, something that comes from the person giving it. I've also gotten the line of "Well, maybe WE want to celebrate your birthday, did you ever think of THAT?" Yeah, sure. fine. Great. Go ahead. I won't be there. If the "birthee" wishes to celebrate, all well & good...but should he have it forced on him? It's gotten to the point that I hide the date to prevent the usual rounds of "Happy birthday!" (to which the standard reply is either "Get BENT!" or "Fuck YOU.")
So why am I rambling about this? Because I'm curious to hear what others thinks about birthdays & the "need" to celebrate. Next?
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"Do you know how much YOU'RE worth??.....2.5 million Woolongs. THAT'S your bounty. I SAID you were small fry..." --Spike Spiegel
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"I really want a flying pogo-stick." - Antag
(sigh) I need a hug. Unfortunately, the hugger I want is in Pennsylvania....
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"Do you know how much YOU'RE worth??.....2.5 million Woolongs. THAT'S your bounty. I SAID you were small fry..." --Spike Spiegel
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"I really want a flying pogo-stick." - Antag
I'm not sure if that was even remotely helpful, but it's all I can think of now.
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Teddy Roosevelt: "Speak softly and carry a big stick."
Yosemite Sam: "Well, I speak loudly and I carry a bigger stick...and I use it too!"
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"It's like the Star of David or something. But without the whole Judaism thing."
-Frank Gerratana, 17-Aug-2000
I don't fully understand why anyone would like to be alone every birthday (I get more out of "quiet contemplation" and "thought" if it's a spontaneous urge).
However, I DO understand what it's like getting angry because you can't see your family's/friend's desires to celebrate you from their POV, just your own humble, unselfish attitude, I don't know. You can't work on your boat if it's still in the water.
People can get hurt when you tell them their kindness is unnecessary, or even unwanted, when instead of a purr they get a roar.
Of course you shouldn't do it for their sake, so THEY can get together and have a ball, only in "your" name.
I suggest a compromise, because birthdays can be a great source of strength and joy, if taken properly.
And HAPPY BIRTHDAY FROM ME TOO!!! You don't get away that easily.
I thought of a little present too, if only a small one.
It's the 642k one, in the bottom of this page.
http://pages.infinit.net/dodo/lexx/mp3.htm
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Ready for the action now, Dangerboy
Ready if I'm ready for you, Dangerboy
Ready if I want it now, Dangerboy?
How dare you, dare you, Dangerboy?
How dare you, Dangerboy?
I dare you, dare you, Dangerboy...
�on Flux, "Thanatophobia"
[This message has been edited by Nimrod (edited August 20, 2000).]
*already curious what the next birthday is where Alpha is to be invited*
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ALPHA CENTAURI
Human Class - Starfleet registry NCC-75715
Launched stardate 8311.23 - Parental Biology Yards
United Federation of Planets
"A dedication motto? What about it?" - Alpha Centauri
Birthdays are like farts. You tell everyone you hate them, but secretly, you enjoy them.
:-)
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Intelligence, Integrity, Responsibility.
Vote Bush/Cheney 2000
Nimrod..I love ya. Tell me where t'send you my only Lexx WAV of red Xev saying, "Kai, I did it! I've experience physical MAN-love for the pure uncomplicated PLEASURE of it all!"
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"Do you know how much YOU'RE worth??.....2.5 million Woolongs. THAT'S your bounty. I SAID you were small fry..." --Spike Spiegel
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Ready for the action now, Dangerboy
Ready if I'm ready for you, Dangerboy
Ready if I want it now, Dangerboy?
How dare you, dare you, Dangerboy?
How dare you, Dangerboy?
I dare you, dare you, Dangerboy...
�on Flux, "Thanatophobia"
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"Do you know how much YOU'RE worth??.....2.5 million Woolongs. THAT'S your bounty. I SAID you were small fry..." --Spike Spiegel
Anyhoo, according to my estimates you have at least 4-5 hours of sunday to go, so make the most of it. I OTOH will go to my alcove and regenerate, as I am many zones ahead of youse guys.
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Ready for the action now, Dangerboy
Ready if I'm ready for you, Dangerboy
Ready if I want it now, Dangerboy?
How dare you, dare you, Dangerboy?
How dare you, Dangerboy?
I dare you, dare you, Dangerboy...
�on Flux, "Thanatophobia"
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Conservative, n. A statesman who is enamored of existing evils, as distinguished from the Liberal, who wishes to replace them with others.
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Ambrose Bierce
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Read chapter one of "Dirk Tungsten in...The Disappearing Planet"! It's useless to struggle.