even though Shik isn't around, i'm sure we can do something interesting with this thread.
Posted by Siegfried (Member # 29) on :
I can speak for Shik in that he's not dating anyone at the moment. And, that pretty much covers me as well. Next?
Posted by Capped in Mic (Member # 709) on :
sigh.. i guess it's me then. Leanne and I have been together 8 months now. Posted by The_Tom (Member # 38) on :
We should have a hair exchange program here at Flare.
Posted by Capped in Mic (Member # 709) on :
more importantly, if you enlarge the left background you can clearly see the silhouettte of an Ariel-class shuttlecarrier: Posted by The359 (Member # 37) on :
quote:Originally posted by Capped in Mic:
THO.
Posted by PsyLiam (Member # 73) on :
I congratulate you for going down the relatively dignified route of wearing a cap, and not, say, growing a long pony-tail.
Also, you can see your nipples in that shirt.
Posted by Jason Abbadon (Member # 882) on :
Cute Terminator eyes on the little girl. You can almost hear her plotting to kill John Connor....
Posted by Omega (Member # 91) on :
Wow, eight months? The kid doesn't look that young, but you never know about these things...
I'm not actively seeing anyone right now. My only real possibility is the afore-mentioned Kari, AKA Mouse (mainly because I know far too many girls with two syllable names that start with K). However, right now she's stuck on another guy, who happens to be 28 to her 18. I can't quite decide whether I should envy him or not. On one hand he has the affections of a great girl, sweet, cute as anything, and I just have to think, "Lucky bastard". On the other hand, he can't date her under any circumstances, no matter how much they both might want to, so I just have to say "HA! You're SOOOO screwed!" Of course, she's also screwed one way or the other, which sucks. Unfortunately, the only way out for her is to like someone else, and sadly I can't guarentee that. Anyway, we went to the TSO concert Monday night, and we've talked about the idea of our dating on occasion, but for now we remain just friends who hang out on the rare occasion she has free time. She's talked about having me take her to the campus highschool homecoming in a few weeks, but she doesn't know if she's gonna have a date or not. Just depends on what all her friends do, apparently. I hope she gives me a little advance warning, seeing as I've never worn a suit in my life and it might take me a bit to dig one up. The things I do for women...
Posted by Dat (Member # 302) on :
In college, I tried to strike it up with a girl I knew from high school, but when I told her about my feelings, she stopped talking to me altogether.
Posted by Malnurtured Snay (Member # 411) on :
quote:On the other hand, he can't date her under any circumstances,
He's 28, she's 18, they're both adults. Why can't they date?
Posted by Saltah'na (Member # 33) on :
Few Facts about myself: - I'm not rich. - I'm not a success story. - I don't own a fancy car. - My looks can kill. Literally.
Therefore from the above facts we can infer the result: I'm still single.
Oh, and there is an insight to my new sig. Be Forewarned.
Posted by Jason Abbadon (Member # 882) on :
My strange love life life is a study in stop-motion photography: everything is condensed into two or three weeks and we never see each other again. It's happened five or six times now so far...it never ends with yelling or anything: we just dont call each other ever again after a point. Sigh.
Recently, i met a great woman (three years my elder) and we talked all night at my work, she wanted to het a drink sometime and then (a few weeks later, when we were going to actually go) she mentioned bringing her boyfreind along because "I'm JUST like him". Luckily, I rounded up a few drinking buddies to ge to the bar with me and akwardness was mostly averted. Mostly.
Good to have peeps you can call in a tight situation like that. Despite evcerything, I really did like her boyfreind: we'd have been pals if not for the fact I never intend to see either of them again.
Still, that offically happened "last year" now and I have a whole new year in wich to make romantic pratfalls.
Posted by Omega (Member # 91) on :
He's 28, she's 18, they're both adults. Why can't they date?
Her parents wouldn't allow it, for one. The adulthood of an 18-year-old is a debatable concept, regardless of legal standing.
Posted by Siegfried (Member # 29) on :
An insight with the obviousness of a Mack truck hurtling towards a brick wall at 200 kph, Saltah'na.
A few facts about myself:
I'm not rich either. In fact, I'm up to my eyeballs in student loan debt and am going to be let go from my job in four weeks after over two years working there.
I'm not a success story either. My life is a seemingly never-ending story of fuck ups and bad luck that would great sitcom fodder in the future.
I don't own a fancy car either. I drive a Saturn.
My looks haven't yet been documented as killing anyone, but they did cause a girl I was interested in to go running to her mommy screaming and crying because I told her that I liked her.
In addition to the fact that the only woman I've ever been on a date with is trying to retcon that into "just an outing as friends" so that she will be seen as perfectly pure for her future-fianc�e's parents, we can infer that I'm single and forever will be.
No signature for me showing my bitterness about the other gender. I'm not really bitter so much as I'm just tired of everything.
Posted by Jason Abbadon (Member # 882) on :
BUt you like Big O so there's still hope you'll find a nice Cosplay girl and live a strange and happy life.
Posted by Malnurtured Snay (Member # 411) on :
Tahna listens to Tom Leykus, I bet.
Posted by Siegfried (Member # 29) on :
quote:Originally posted by Jason Abbadon: BUt you like Big O so there's still hope you'll find a nice Cosplay girl and live a strange and happy life.
No, that means I'm probably going to find a guy who looks like me with my personality who fancies dressing up like Sailor Moon.
Posted by PsyLiam (Member # 73) on :
Tsk. Sailor Mars is far hotter.
And I really do worry about the American education system if it's causing people to mistake children who are quite clearly at least 4 for being 8 months. It's terrible.
Or maybe 3. Or 5. It's so hard to tell with kids these days. Most of them are smoking, drinking and have babies of their own before they are even 10.
My dating life sucks at the moment. I hate you all.
Posted by Jason Abbadon (Member # 882) on :
Disturbing.
Dont be so down on yourself! If theres one thing women always tell me (insrt obligatory penis joke here) it's that they like self-confidence.
Not, I find, meglomania though. They'll suffer for that once my plans bears it's bitter fruit...
Posted by Fleet-Admiral Michael T. Colorge (Member # 144) on :
Well, since this started in my thread...
I am currently single but casually dating other people. I'm seeing a former Playgirl centerfold and porn star, a cute 22 year old blond, and someone who I've been having sex with since 19.
Other than that, I'm still doing the casual sex scene until I get either tired of it, worn out, or settle down again for the fourth time... whichever comes first.
Posted by LOA (Member # 49) on :
I am single.
I don't want to be, particularly, but it's hard for a girl like me to find a guy.
"A girl like me?" you may be wondering.... yes, a girl like me:
1) I'm a workaholic, though I think I could tame that down a bit for the right guy....
2) I have this minor (maybe major) obsession with most things car audio - most men find this to be Very Cool 'til they realize just how MUCH I know about the subject - makes a guy feel like less of a man when he realizes that the girl he's talking to at the stereo shop knows more about the system he's having installed than HE does. And she's on a first name basis (or nickname, as the case may be) with every crew member in the store. Pleh.
3) There is a stigma attached to me: Most of my guy friends turn gay at some point. I think it's a freak coincidence, but some theorize that maybe somehow *I* a the catalyst for all homosexuality in Spokane. Not the best rumor for a single girl to have flying around her...
4) Though most of them ARE gay, I have WAY more guy friends than girl friends, and I spend that majority of my time hanging with the guys, due to the fact that I'm "just cool enough" - I've even been awarded ad "honorary penis"! Yay me and stuff, but this whole "being one of the guys" thing sure does cut down on the amount of romance I see..... "Eww.... Liz??? She's just one of the guys though! Gross!"
And finally, the biggest problem:
5) I, apparently, and intimidating AND impossible to figure out. Like, even more than most women. Because while I'm just one of the guys, and I can cuss and swear and tell dirty jokes with the best of them, I also insist on wearing pink furry things and have an obsession with lipgloss and glitter. And I'm a christian virgin who is saving herself for marraige. Guys REALLY get freaked out about THAT. Or turned on. Depending on what kind of guy we're dealing with. But the ones that are turned on? Uhh... they tend to be what we can refer to as "man-whores". Ick.
So, kids, that's why I'm single.
And yes, there is a boy in my life that I'd like to date... and he's perfect for me in EVERY way! I mean, EVERY way. Cute, funny, nice, polite, christian, saving himself for marriage, the works... Except he's scared of women. SCARED. Yeesh.... What kind of crap is THAT?!? Figures.
So there's that. Now ya know!
~LOA
Posted by Ultra Magnus (Member # 239) on :
Who makes concentrated products? Uh, okay, like there's those concentrated frozen juices from McCain, or whatever.
I say we sell this thread to them. Concentrated depression with a hint of uncomfortable self-esteem issues. And special ingredient: misrepresentation of indulgence.
I would not drink it, but perhaps the eater of souls would.
Eater of Souls, being, of course, my ex-Wife.
Not to worry, for I am now seeing a delightful ambulance chaser-slash-carnie.
Posted by Omega (Member # 91) on :
And I really do worry about the American education system if it's causing people to mistake children who are quite clearly at least 4 for being 8 months.
He said they'd been dating eight months. The implication I was going for was that this was their child. Of course, the joke is dependent on the concept of zero gestation period.
You know, the frightening thing is, I get Liz, for the most part. She's a lot like many girls I know. In fact, she'd fit in very well in Nashville. Which is why she needs to GET HER ASS DOWN HERE, DANGIT!
Posted by Jason Abbadon (Member # 882) on :
quote:Originally posted by LOA: I am single. I don't want to be, particularly, but it's hard for a girl like me to find a guy. 1) I'm a workaholic, though I think I could tame that down a bit for the right guy.... 2) I have this minor (maybe major) obsession with most things car audio 3) There is a stigma attached to me: Most of my guy friends turn gay at some point. 4) Though most of them ARE gay, I have WAY more guy friends than girl friends, 5) I, apparently, and intimidating AND impossible to figure out. ~LOA
6) would be that whole kicking guys in the nads thing. Mabye thats why your guy freind is scared of women. Not to critisize someone I'll never meet, but this guy's afraid of women and wants to save himself for the honeymoon? It's gonna be an akward, embarrasing evening for that guy.
Posted by TSN (Member # 31) on :
I AM NOT HAVING THE SEX AT THE CURRENT TIME !!
IT IS UNFORTUNATE, AND CONTRARY TO MY LIKING !! Posted by Ultra Magnus (Member # 239) on :
A style so timeless it makes the Sphinx look ephemeral.
[ January 03, 2004, 02:04 AM: Message edited by: Ultra Magnus ]
Posted by AndrewR (Member # 44) on :
quote:Originally posted by Jason Abbadon: Recently, i met a great woman (three years my elder) and we talked all night at my work, she wanted to het a drink sometime and then (a few weeks later, when we were going to actually go) she mentioned bringing her boyfreind along because "I'm JUST like him".
Wait... wasn't that a plot to an episode of "Seinfeld"... very funny.
quote:Originally posted by Omega: He said they'd been dating eight months. The implication I was going for was that this was their child. Of course, the joke is dependent on the concept of zero gestation period.
They're tribbles!?!
quote:Originally posted by Fleet-Admiral Michael T. Colorge: I am currently single but casually dating other people. I'm seeing a former Playgirl centerfold and porn star, a cute 22 year old blond, and someone who I've been having sex with since 19.
Is that 1 or 3 people!?!
Posted by Jason Abbadon (Member # 882) on :
quote:Originally posted by AndrewR:
quote:Originally posted by Jason Abbadon: Recently, i met a great woman (three years my elder) and we talked all night at my work, she wanted to het a drink sometime and then (a few weeks later, when we were going to actually go) she mentioned bringing her boyfreind along because "I'm JUST like him".
Wait... wasn't that a plot to an episode of "Seinfeld"... very funny.
Really? I hate that show- I was serious. My freind (a pal I brought along after I found out her boyfreind was gonna be there) actually thought she was testing the waters for some kinda threeway hook-up. I didint get that vibe though....and I dont think I'd have gone for it anyway: I dont dig guys that way and I'm not the "sharing" type.
So my life resembles a TV show I never would watch. Greeeat. Posted by Cartman (Member # 256) on :
It's worse if your life resembles a TV show that you DO watch. Like mine.
Also, a funny thing happened on the way to Flare: I knew, right when I read about Sex Boy's bereavement yesterday, that the good Captain would start a thread with this exact title. I just knew. AND HERE IT IS!!
I must be developing precognitive abilities or something.
Posted by Jason Abbadon (Member # 882) on :
South Park? Outer Limits? American Justice? Forensic Files? Animal Rescue? Dark Shadows? BJ and the bear? A-Team? Murder She Wrote? Culombo?
I'm sorry, Cartman, but you leave yourself open, you know....
Posted by Cartman (Member # 256) on :
Well, a couple of those, with some ingredients of the Twilight Zone thrown in, and, uh, Survivor, and maybe Rescue 911, and Animal House and A Clockwork Orange (which were both never a series but anyway), and, of course, that show. It's a melange, that's what it is.
Posted by Cartman (Member # 256) on :
And I know this is a cheap shot, but:
quote:Originally posted by LOA: And yes, there is a boy in my life that I'd like to date... and he's perfect for me in EVERY way! I mean, EVERY way. Cute, funny, nice, polite, christian, saving himself for marriage, the works... Except he's scared of women. SCARED.
Who, Omega? B)
Posted by Jason Abbadon (Member # 882) on :
wow. That was a cheap shot! The first of the year in fact.
I salute you sir!
Posted by Nim (Member # 205) on :
The entirety of 2003 was spent recovering from the Christmas Day 2002 backstab.
Now the gloves are off, I'm gonna screw justice and the horse it rode in on.
Posted by Jason Abbadon (Member # 882) on :
quote:Originally posted by Nim: Now the gloves are off, I'm gonna screw justice and the horse it rode in on.
Just dont get those two confused.
Posted by Harry (Member # 265) on :
Just three pages and we're already into horse sex?
Anyway.. Dating life? ME? You've got to be kidding.
Posted by TheWoozle (Member # 929) on :
My wife doesn't allow me to date...
Posted by The359 (Member # 37) on :
quote:Originally posted by LOA: 2) I have this minor (maybe major) obsession with most things car audio
No shit, really?
quote:Originally posted by PsyLiam: Also, you can see your nipples in that shirt.
That's what I was attempting to point out...
Posted by The359 (Member # 37) on :
Oh, and my dating life has been non-existant since Laura. And it was non-existant before Laura. Just a minor blip on a downward trajectory.
Posted by Styrofoaman (Member # 706) on :
Such sad people.
Ah well.
Posted by PsyLiam (Member # 73) on :
We bow before your industrial titan status.
[ January 03, 2004, 08:54 AM: Message edited by: PsyLiam ]
Posted by Siegfried (Member # 29) on :
quote:Originally posted by Ultra Magnus: I say we sell this thread to them. Concentrated depression with a hint of uncomfortable self-esteem issues.
You'd be depressed and have self-esteem issues too if you have the physique of the Michelin Man. Although, I do want in on that business venture. Daddy needs to pay off student loans.
Posted by Styrofoaman (Member # 706) on :
We are NOT "industrial titans," yet.
Out of 500 ranked packaging companies we 471th out of 500. Be jumping to 410th as soon as we finish the next merger.
Posted by The359 (Member # 37) on :
Will this be a "merger of equals", or will it come back to haunt you in trial a decade later? (bonus to whoever knows what I am refering to)
Posted by Cartman (Member # 256) on :
quote:Originally posted by Styrofoaman: We are NOT "industrial titans," yet.
Then we bow before your sex god status. Move over, Liam.
Posted by PsyLiam (Member # 73) on :
However can I carry on with my life? I must conquer this new world of factories and buildings, no matter the cost!
Posted by Lee (Member # 393) on :
God, I'm so glad I'm married. . .
Posted by Topher (Member # 71) on :
Well, I've been dating my girlfriend for a little over 8 months now, and things are going great. I never had a relationship before her, though.
Posted by Styrofoaman (Member # 706) on :
Then how do you know it's going well?
Posted by Styrofoaman (Member # 706) on :
quote:Originally posted by Lee: God, I'm so glad I'm married. . .
To the salt-water snorting she-devil!!
Hmmmm....
Posted by Siegfried (Member # 29) on :
quote:Originally posted by Styrofoaman: To the salt-water snorting she-devil?
No, the canary.
quote:Originally posted by Styrofoaman: Then how do you know it's going well?
Because they're both happy, having the 1337 seXX0rs, still together after eight months, and they're both happy.
Posted by Peregrinus (Member # 504) on :
For what it's worth, I've been with Jen for four years and eight months.
--Jonah
Posted by Nim (Member # 205) on :
Now I'm gonna have to screw you and the horse you rode in on.
--Sincerely, Best Wishes, Nim
Posted by Balaam Xumucane (Member # 419) on :
quote:Originally posted by Peregrinus: For what it's worth, I've been with Jen for four years and eight months.
And Jen is all young and cute and nice and stuff. Damn your eyes.
No, but Siggy, look. You think girls don't like you. Here's a little secret I picked up along the way: girls are kind of stupid. Listen to some older Elvis Costello records. Blood and Chocolate in particular. Then go out and do something selfish that you like.
Clearly none of us on this board would qualify as studs. Those who would are merely deceiving themselves. There's just something about knowing the photon torpedo compliment of an Intrepid class starship or arguing the canonicity of TAS that seems to be anethema to sex with the female population at large, and that's ok. So now with hardly any provocation I'm going to ignore this lack of studliness and deign to give you stupid BX love advice:
You know in your heart that you are a charming and wonderful fellow. We see it. I see it, at least. And if they aren't able to see that, well then it only goes to prove my above point: girls are stupid. Part of the problem may be that you are chasing the wrong girls.
Honestly, a lot of it is the age, and some of it is that it's college. Girls in college still believe that Orlando Bloom with Brad Pitt's eyes, Vin Diesel's voice, Cary Grant's charm and Michael Eisner's pocketbooks would have even a remote interest in them. This is a mistaken assumption (fast-forward ten years). They also believe that popular and muscular boys with names like Jake and Joe have an interest in them which extends beyond the front of their chests.
Still there will be a select few who have figured out that The Real World� is anything but, that people on TV are different than people you meet on the street and that They Might Be Giants is a good band. And these, of course, are the ones to focus on.
You're able to make friends with girls. This is a good sign. You know that you are a good person. You have things which make you happy (other than food). These are things to focus on. Move early and move confidently. I did a poll to figure out who went on the most dates and do you know what I found? It's the guys who asked girls out the most. Statistics are amazing. Do you know what else is amazing? The effect a little confidence has on women.
Things that will always be sexy to women: (in order)
confidence
humor
people who are genuinely interested/engaged in things other than the fronts of their chests (preferrably not sports)
looking like brad pitt
cool hair
larege amounts of cash
callousness
Women file men into four categories: Protector-Providers, Hunky Beef-cakes, Just-Friends, and Rapists. The trick is not falling into the last two categories.
Things will never be sexy to women:
morbid depression (there is a goth qualifier, but trying to picture you in eyeliner more or less negates this)
neediness
star trek
squalor
Do you know what's way easier than trying to transform a self-absorbed moronic asshole gunning towards a miserable life of continually mounting disappointments culminating in a tragic (if strangely fitting) death? Finding someone smart and fun who understands the importance of back-rubs and doesn't mind if you don't look like Ethan Hawke.
Posted by Siegfried (Member # 29) on :
Thank you, Balaam, and I'll try to keep all of that in mind.
Posted by Peregrinus (Member # 504) on :
Would this be a bad time to mention Jen loves They Might Be Giants...?
You left out one tragic factor that I think bears mentioning. Far, far too often women opt for the guy whose life is going nowhere (in a worse way than most sci-fi geeks). One of Jen's periods of doubt about our relationship (which women go through, so get used to it) was ended by a rather harsh dose of reality-projection on the part of yours truly. I said that yes I was in a rough spot and have been for some time. I'm up to big things in my life, and the higher the wall you throw your hat over, the harder it's going to be to get to it. I am either going to succeed brilliantly or fail horrendously. Not much middle ground. The tempting factor was and is much more stable -- good income as a Ford mechanic and all that. However I pointed out to her that if she went with him, one of two general scenarios would play out. Either she would stick to her dreams and become a world-renowned virologist and he would feel increasingly inadequate and resentful, or she would sacrifice her big dreams for a life of secure mediocrity with her husband the Ford mechanic and live in the suburbs with 2.5 kids and a mortgage and feel increasingly inadequate and resentful. To sum up, he's a great friend and she loves him, but his dreams aren't of the same scope as hers.
And the other massively worrisome (to me) trait is women who pick abusers. I'm sure many of you are nodding knowingly at this point, and have your own horror stories to add, so I'll leave off for now.
--Jonah
Posted by PsyLiam (Member # 73) on :
quote:Originally posted by Balaam Xumucane: Clearly none of us on this board would qualify as studs. Those who would are merely deceiving themselves.
Aban, of course, being the very notable exception.
Down boy, down!
Posted by LOA (Member # 49) on :
Yes.... women love confidence...... *nods* A boy with confidence can get just about whatever he wants - as long as he's not TOO confident. 'Cause if he is, then he becomes something at girls hate.
So there ya have it boys - it's a fine line, but walk it well and you may "get some"!
~LOA
Posted by Cartman (Member # 256) on :
quote:Originally posted by Balaam Xumucane: girls are kind of stupid
And if that doesn't restore your faith in humanity, nothing will. B)
Now I am not the great dispenser of Truth and Wisdom, having never actually beaten the Fortune Cookie stage myself, so on the subject of women my mind is, well, blank, and relationships are as alien to me as, uh, ET, but I have been given assurances by a reputable source (aka. life, as far as mine can be construed as representative data) that a healthy sense of humor and a little self-respect go much, much further than superficial traits like body fat percentage and, erh, horse riding skills. Yeah.
And I cannot believe I just handed out advice on mankind's biggest conundrum ever. Pinch me, somebody.
Posted by Fleet-Admiral Michael T. Colorge (Member # 144) on :
I'm dating three guys so far only. I don't think I can squeze in another one.
Posted by Jason Abbadon (Member # 882) on :
Spare us what "squeeze in" refers to, please? Posted by The359 (Member # 37) on :
quote:Originally posted by Fleet-Admiral Michael T. Colorge: I'm dating three guys so far only. I don't think I can squeze in another one.
You manwhore, you...
Posted by Ultra Magnus (Member # 239) on :
I would like to know how it feels to love.
Posted by Fleet-Admiral Michael T. Colorge (Member # 144) on :
I'm not a manwhore... I'm a sexthusiast!!!
Posted by Jason Abbadon (Member # 882) on :
quote:Originally posted by Ultra Magnus: I would like to know how it feels to love.
It's kind of like being high...untill you realize she doesnt feel the same way. Then, it's like being stabbed, gutted and losing the super Bowl in front of millions of spectators all at once. But worse, of course.
Posted by Balaam Xumucane (Member # 419) on :
I believe in a thing called love. Posted by Siegfried (Member # 29) on :
quote:Originally posted by Ultra Magnus: I would like to know how it feels to love.
It's the greatest feeling in the world, and it's the greatest mix of emotions ever.
Happiness and elation when you see her; sadness and loneliness while she's gone. A bit of jealousness and envy when you see her with someone else. Anger and self-loathing when you realize that she can never love you as much as you do her. Fondness when you are one of her closest friends. A touch of regret when you see her marry someone else; a lot of joy when you see how happy she is.
Posted by Omega (Member # 91) on :
Jane: This emotion I'm feeling now, this is love, right? Miro: I don't know. Is it a longing? Is it a giddy stupid happiness just because you're with me? Jane: Yes. Miro: That's influenza. Watch for nausea or diarrhea within a few hours. - Orson Scott Card's "Children of the Mind"
Posted by Dat (Member # 302) on :
quote:Originally posted by Balaam Xumucane: I believe in a thing called love.
Hair-band who seems to be from the 80s and lost in the 2000s.
Posted by PsyLiam (Member # 73) on :
NO...INSULTING...THE...DARKNESS.
Posted by Capped in Mic (Member # 709) on :
quote:Originally posted by Balaam Xumucane: Things will never be sexy to women:
morbid depression (there is a goth qualifier, but trying to picture you in eyeliner more or less negates this)
neediness
star trek
squalor
sad, that's a lot of my relationship encapsulated.
and she loves me in eyeliner.
Posted by Jason Abbadon (Member # 882) on :
"relationship" as in singular? Posted by Capped in Mic (Member # 709) on :
if i ever have more than one relationships defined by all four of those i should like to trade in my semi-charmed life at that point
Posted by Guardian 2000 (Member # 743) on :
I've bedded 40+, which is odd given that I was a shy hopeless romantic in my youth. Oh, sure, it's entertaining to be a sort of Captain Kirk figure, but I'd rather have found one. However, it is so much easier to find sex than love . . . and so much easier to find meaningless sex than meaningful sex.
'Absence of feeling', 'absence of care' . . . such seem to be the highest goals of female endeavour, in this most decadent age.
"Sex was really easy. Sex was everywhere. It didn't really mean too much. Love . . . love was the hard thing to find . . . even if you were looking for it, which not too many people were . . . and even if you found it, which not too many people did. Even if it was right there in front of you, how could you even see it with all the sex in the way?"
- a character in Gia Posted by The359 (Member # 37) on :
quote:Originally posted by Guardian 2000: I've bedded 40+
Shut up, you...
Posted by TSN (Member # 31) on :
"I've bedded 40+..."
A bit old for my tastes, but, if that's your thing, good for you.
Posted by Fleet-Admiral Michael T. Colorge (Member # 144) on :
What happens when you bedded with over 475 people then?
Posted by Jason Abbadon (Member # 882) on :
I think after you bed 250 you get to upload files at Playboy.com or something....
Posted by Cartman (Member # 256) on :
or, in his case, playgirl.com
Posted by Jason Abbadon (Member # 882) on :
Whatever floats your boat.
Posted by Topher (Member # 71) on :
Only 475? Gene Simmons would scoff at you.
Posted by Fleet-Admiral Michael T. Colorge (Member # 144) on :
Sorry Topher but I only started when I was 16.
Posted by Balaam Xumucane (Member # 419) on :
And every one of them still holds a special place in his heart. Whatever their names are.
Posted by PsyLiam (Member # 73) on :
quote:Originally posted by Fleet-Admiral Michael T. Colorge: What happens when you bedded with over 475 people then?
Then you're overly desperate and completely insecure.
Posted by Peregrinus (Member # 504) on :
By the way, BX, Jen thought you were kinda cute, and not nearly as geeky as she was figuring you were going to be. She thought you were going to be more like Charles. Um. No offense, boss.
--Jonah
Posted by Siegfried (Member # 29) on :
quote:Originally posted by Fleet-Admiral Michael T. Colorge: What happens when you bedded with over 475 people then?
It depends on whether those 475 people involved oral or anal gratification. I'm gonna be a lot less impressed by 475 blowjobs than I am 475 trips down the Hersey Highway.
Posted by Guardian 2000 (Member # 743) on :
quote:Originally posted by Balaam Xumucane: And every one of them still holds a special place in his heart. Whatever their names are.
Hehehe . . . that's awful. Funny, but awful.
If I lost my list I'd be screwed . . . but I could probably reconstruct it for the most part given some time and thought.
I have to ask, O Ye of 475, just out of sheer scientific curiosity . . . how do you keep track? I had to start writing them down after about 10 or so. Have you maintained a list, or do you simply mark notches somewhere?
Posted by AndrewR (Member # 44) on :
quote:Originally posted by Guardian 2000:
quote:Originally posted by Balaam Xumucane: And every one of them still holds a special place in his heart. Whatever their names are.
Hehehe . . . that's awful. Funny, but awful.
If I lost my list I'd be screwed . . . but I could probably reconstruct it for the most part given some time and thought.
Maybe you could do it up in excel like so many people's ship-lists Posted by Jason Abbadon (Member # 882) on :
Make aChronology. The Okudas havent researched anything lately, mabye they'll help....
For the cover, you could Photoshop the pic of Kirk and Spock jumping into the Guardian and replace the Guardian with a giant gaping anus....
Posted by Fleet-Admiral Michael T. Colorge (Member # 144) on :
I actually have a large blackbook that holds everyone's name. I converted it into a digital format last year since I wanted to attach photos with the names and contact numbers.
Posted by The359 (Member # 37) on :
Could your .sig be any longer?
Posted by PsyLiam (Member # 73) on :
Indeed. If you absolutly have to have a totally rad message song blazing out to all and sundry informing that you're not going by what society says is "normal" (man!) why don't you put it on one line and seperate the song lines with a /, or \, or indeed a |?
Posted by TSN (Member # 31) on :
You are all dirty sluts. Damn you. Damn you all to hell.
Posted by PsyLiam (Member # 73) on :
I'm not! I am sensitive! Ask anyone.
Posted by Siegfried (Member # 29) on :
quote:Originally posted by TSN: You are all dirty sluts. Damn you. Damn you all to hell.
Someone's a bit cranky. Come let Poppa Siegfried give you a hug, sonny! Posted by Guardian 2000 (Member # 743) on :
quote:Originally posted by Jason Abbadon: For the cover, you could Photoshop the pic of Kirk and Spock jumping into the Guardian and replace the Guardian with a giant gaping anus....
I do not wish to be replaced with a gaping anus (and certainly not one of such extraordinary proportions). I would then be more likely to become #476, and though I'm sure Mr. Colorge is very attractive and satisfying, I just don't feel that way about guys.
Posted by Balaam Xumucane (Member # 419) on :
quote:Originally posted by Peregrinus: By the way, BX, Jen thought you were kinda cute
Great. Totally cool hottie who isn't put off by science-fiction dorknitude finds me 'kinda cute'... She's also into TMBG... And a soon-to-be super-star virologist/web-designer. Of course she's in a long-term comitted relationship. Yep, that's my luck.
How's she feel about sarcasm?
Posted by Fleet-Admiral Michael T. Colorge (Member # 144) on :
I don't know... I was trying to see what new sig I would have for this year but I can't decide so I put my current one as a placeholder.
Posted by Balaam Xumucane (Member # 419) on :
It's just that maybe the message:'absolutely not' runs sort of contrary to your posts in this thread. Also, hey, your digital little black book would be just the sort of thing to put in your Cli�, eh?
Posted by The359 (Member # 37) on :
Ah, I can see it on Law & Order now...
"Where's your PDA?! We need your PDA to get your client list and solve this case!"
Posted by Lee (Member # 393) on :
Ah, love. I'd never been in love before I met Kate. I probably thought I had, even though most of the time it was just obsession, infatuation or just lust.
I don't think I can really describe how I feel about her. I can however describe how it affects you. When we were first going out, it was within a few weeks that we both decided that something really amazing was happening. One night I told her I thought I was falling in love with her; she said the feeling was mutual.
Even then it was another week before I got up the nerve to say those three special little words. . . and promptly got her name wrong because I was so nervous. I can safely say that after that, asking her father for permission to marry his daughter was a doddle.
How you experience being in love changes. Way back then, I could compartmentalise it. I'd go about my job, doing this, going there, seeing him, talking to her, meeting with them, getting that. . . and then I'd suddenly think of Kate. It all just takes your breath away, and still does. But now she's always there in my thoughts, sort of background radiation. Being in love is as now as much part of my life as breathing.
She's my lobster. Everyone has one out there somewhere.
So, er, that's it. Love, Lee-style. After a fashion - I'd been thinking about contributing to this thread for a week and still didn't get it right. Probably never will.
Posted by Fleet-Admiral Michael T. Colorge (Member # 144) on :
Aww, Lee are you a hopeless romantic? It sounds like you are.
Posted by LOA (Member # 49) on :
Shoot, dude!I wanna fall in love! I need a man to call my own; a husband to take care of things. It's too much work being a single girl... I can't remember to take care of things like oil changes, tune ups, and tire pressure! It takes away from the important things in life, like glitter and lipgloss! And I'm tired of killing my own spiders, too.
I want someone to buy me presents! Expensive ones, even
Maybe someday I'll find the man for me.... someday............. *dreamy sigh*
~LOA Posted by Siegfried (Member # 29) on :
Liz, you don't need to fall in love and have a man to get all that. You just need a personal assistant and a groupie.
Posted by Wraith (Member # 779) on :
quote: I can safely say that after that, asking her father for permission to marry his daughter was a doddle.
Yay for the nineteenth century!!
Although on one occasion I did forget my own name when asking a girl out. Which was... interesting. I'm 17 and so probably can't give any commentary on true love. Also I wouldn't want to sound soppy. It'd ruin my manly image. Posted by Siegfried (Member # 29) on :
I met my first love in seventh grade. I gradually came to love her; it was ninth grade when I acknowledged my feelings for her to myself. We've been friends for twelve years now, and every now and then it'll feel like my love for her has subsided. Then, something happens that reminds me I am still smitten with her.
Posted by Omega (Member # 91) on :
Don'cha just hate those? I've got you beaten by about four years, but very similar pattern.
Posted by Tora Regina (Member # 53) on :
I don't have relationship issues. The two guys I've dated so far are two of the most wonderful guys of my aquaintance, and I still call them close friends. I do, however, have situational issues. My last guy I dated for just under two months. In the last few weeks of that his mother found out she had cancer, and being the wonderful guy he is, he will be taking care of her and dealing with issues surrounding her illness and thus has no time to date. *sigh* In the meantime, I am investing in vibrators.
Posted by Lee (Member # 393) on :
We knew we were going to get married. I wasn't that bothered, but Kate felt it was important. And I'm glad we did - it changes things in ways that are difficult to describe. It felt like the most natural thing in the world.
Anyway, yes. Asking her father. As I said, we decided we were getting married but I hadn't formally proposed yet. I was vaguely planning to ask her when we were in Venice; however, about a month prior to that we were down visiting her parents and the idea sort of evolved that I'd ask her dad for permission. I did, and formally proposed later that evening when we got home. It meant that we had time to go out and get a ring - she chose it, I'd never have got the right one; then have it sized to her finger. Then when we were in Venice, in a gondola on the Grand Canal not far from the Rialto bridge, I put it on her finger. 8)
As for wanting to find someone to love. . . Don't. I always knew that something was missing from my life. I tried looking for it. I tried replacing it, with work, drugs, meaningless gratuitous sex, and arguing on the Internet with a bunch of other misfits about politics, morality, and the length of a small starship from a TV show. Then, one day I gave up, decided I was destined to be alone. Then I went out to a works do where this PA from the Employment Law department who I didn't like very much started chatting to me. The rest is history. Or rather, chemistry, with a certain amount of biology thrown in, if you know what I mean.
OK, so I don't mean "never look for someone to love." Just, don't set too much store by it. Your lobsters are out there, and you will find them. You're meant to find them. Have faith that the universe will unfold as it should, remember that?
So, just, be patient. Watch When Harry Met Sally again to see all the many ways you could fall in love. Perhaps Liz will go in to upgrade her car's sound system, they'll have this hunky new salesman in the shop, their eyes will meet over a Bang & Olufsen subwoofer, and ZING! Or Siggy's friend could sit down one day and take stock of the men in her life and realise that there's one guy that's always been there for her. Don't undervalue friendship, it's very important in any lasting relationship. Kate's my best friend, and I'm hers.
Posted by Jason Abbadon (Member # 882) on :
quote:Originally posted by Tora Regina: I don't have relationship issues. The two guys I've dated so far are two of the most wonderful guys of my aquaintance, and I still call them close friends. I do, however, have situational issues. My last guy I dated for just under two months. In the last few weeks of that his mother found out she had cancer, and being the wonderful guy he is, he will be taking care of her and dealing with issues surrounding her illness and thus has no time to date. *sigh* In the meantime, I am investing in vibrators.
Investing in them!?! While not speaking from experience, I cant recall seeing them on the NASDAQ. Posted by Tora Regina (Member # 53) on :
Well said, Lee.
Posted by PsyLiam (Member # 73) on :
quote:Originally posted by Lee: I tried replacing it, with work, drugs, meaningless gratuitous sex,
When, where, and can I have some?
Posted by Malnurtured Snay (Member # 411) on :
Hold on ... did Liam just say he wanted meaningless gratuitous sex with Lee?
Posted by LOA (Member # 49) on :
That's what it sounded like to me!
Posted by Fleet-Admiral Michael T. Colorge (Member # 144) on :
OMG... and to think this thread came from a suggestion after someone hijacked my own thread.
At least there was some meaningful insights about realationships and love that was between the more raunchy posts, including my own.
Posted by PsyLiam (Member # 73) on :
Actually, I was wondering where Lee was getting the gratuitous sex from. I mean, if he can get it, then surely I can get twice as much. Yeah. Woo.
Posted by TSN (Member # 31) on :
"She's my lobster. Everyone has one out there somewhere."
So, love is a marine crustacean?
Posted by Siegfried (Member # 29) on :
quote:Originally posted by Lee: Don't undervalue friendship, it's very important in any lasting relationship. Kate's my best friend, and I'm hers.
Shik's been telling me the same thing in our correspondence. I believe in the sentiment; every woman I've ever developed romantic feelings for has been someone I've considered a friend. A lot of my friends' relationships started as friendships. No argument from me on this.
quote:Or Siggy's friend could sit down one day and take stock of the men in her life and realise that there's one guy that's always been there for her.
And while I appreciate the thought, it's not going to happen. She's married now and has been for two years now. She loves him truly and completely; she's the happiest that I have ever seen her. I finally got a chance to meet the lucky guy when I visited them last summer. He's one of the nicest guys I've ever met, and his love for her is as great as hers is for him. They are very happy together and, I hope that nothing causes harm to the love they share.
Posted by TSN (Member # 31) on :
"Shik's been telling me the same thing in our correspondence."
Um... Need I point out that Shik's current position rather suggests that he may not exactly be the top expert on matters of "true love"?
Posted by Topher (Member # 71) on :
Perhaps it is possible for true love to be one-sided?
Posted by Cartman (Member # 256) on :
Yeah, well, as they say, all true love is unrequited. B)
"Then when we were in Venice, in a gondola on the Grand Canal not far from the Rialto bridge, I put it on her finger. 8)"
Bastard.
"...arguing on the Internet with a bunch of other misfits about politics, morality, and the length of a small starship from a TV show."
BASTARD!
"When, where, and can I have some?"
I'm going to go out on a limb here and say... no.
Posted by Lee (Member # 393) on :
Unrequited true love? Maybe.
Sorry to hear that, Siggy. But stranger things have happened. It was just one potential scenario that you should set no store in actually happening, it was just meant as an illustration.
To use another quoite from a certain series of films, there are always possibilities. Try to open yourselves to new ones. To be blunt, you are extremely unlikely to meet someone online. I know of exactly one couple who did and eventually got married.
For instance, I didn't originally go to that works do where I met Kate. Fact is, everyone I knew who was going left without me (they thought I had to stay behind to re-boot a server, but that was re-scheduled without their knowing), so I got narked about it and went home in a huff. One takeaway and an episode of Buffy the Vampire Slayer later, I decided I didn't want to stay in by myself so quickly texted them to see if they were all still there, belted back a coupla drams of single malt (to catch up with my friends, they were doing some serious drinking) and I was off. It's really helpful when your flat is only 20 minutes total journey time from work.
But that's totally unlike me. I'm a stubborn git, once I decide to do something I stick with it. If I decided to go home, I went and no-one would tell me otherwise. I knew logically and empirically that by the time I got there half of them would have left and the rest would be so pissed they'd be impossible to interact with. I'd be back off home in an hour, so the whole thing was a complete waste of time. Instead I ended up pretending to be a guy named Pete who worked for a different company because Kate didn't remember me at all and started talking to me. Yup, I got chatted up by someone who'd once got me into a lot of trouble but now didn't recognise me!
So the moral is, Don't Be Yourselves. Which is actually wrong, you should be yourselves, but maybe change who you are. Oh, I don't know, I'm trying to give you all the benefit of whatever experience I have! I don't claim to have the answers. You can all just go back to ignoring me if you like. . .
Posted by Wraith (Member # 779) on :
quote:Originally posted by Siegfried: I met my first love in seventh grade. I gradually came to love her; it was ninth grade when I acknowledged my feelings for her to myself. We've been friends for twelve years now, and every now and then it'll feel like my love for her has subsided. Then, something happens that reminds me I am still smitten with her.
Same kinda thing happened with me; not quite as long a period of time, obviously. Also, after being really good friend with me for absolutely ages, she suddenly and for no apparent reason decided to stop talking to me. Even her best friend has no idea why. Posted by Tora Regina (Member # 53) on :
Lee, I think what you're trying to say is, if your current self isn't making you happy, why keep repeating old habits? Try something new and if you like it, make it part of your new self. Something like that?
Posted by Jason Abbadon (Member # 882) on :
Unrequited love sucks so bad because if things had really worked out, yo might not feel as strongly about that person. Anticipation without realization is one of life's little kicks in the nads.
Hate to say it, Siggy, but you're probably better off distancing yourself from this girl youre "smitten" with and examining what changes you want to personally make to be happy.
Not that I'm one to dole out Guinan-esque advice but many people say I'm a good listener. Of course, many people say I'm an ass too, so go figure. Posted by PsyLiam (Member # 73) on :
I'm also trying to work out what Lee means. Diane has one explanation, but if Lee is feeling especially pragmatic, it could be "Stop talking about Star Trek until at least AFTER you've kissed her."
Posted by Lee (Member # 393) on :
I think I prefer Diane's, but both work. 8)
Posted by Cartman (Member # 256) on :
Swap "kissed" for "married" and you might just be on to something. B)
Posted by Topher (Member # 71) on :
Well, considering Lydia likes Star Trek and we even talked about Nemesis before we were together, that doesn't apply to me. Posted by Styrofoaman (Member # 706) on :
In The Beginning There Was Liz And She Was Nice.
Known my wife since high school way way back when. Dated off and on for over 15 years, the last 5 things got intresting and only recently married her. Funny how terror-attacks only 300 miles from your house can change your outlook on life.
As for the Trek issue, its not really. Find somthing else you have some common ground on. In my example, we're both Trek freaks, both have an obsession with taking things apart and figuring out how they work and we like nearly the same music, amoung other things. We also hate baseball, despise onions and utterly abhore golf.
Commen ground, very important here! Don't ignore! Posted by Elizabeth Anne (Member # 1162) on :
One thing I don't see mentioned here is the fact that there is no one piece of advice that covers all situations. Each man and woman are different, each meeting, meeting different, and if a relationship occures, then what is needed to make it work will be different each time.
Oh, and flowers mean "I'm sorry" unless they are roses. Then they mean "I'm REALLY sorry!" So don't give them unless you're in trouble. Posted by Siegfried (Member # 29) on :
quote:Originally posted by Jason Abbadon: Hate to say it, Siggy, but you're probably better off distancing yourself from this girl youre "smitten" with and examining what changes you want to personally make to be happy.
I'm not going to dump one of my oldest and closest friends. Yes, occassional I find myself feeling pained that my love for her would never be returned, but I am completely happy that she and I have our friendship.
Posted by Omega (Member # 91) on :
Amen.
Posted by PsyLiam (Member # 73) on :
Brother.
Posted by Jason Abbadon (Member # 882) on :
quote:Originally posted by Siegfried:
quote:Originally posted by Jason Abbadon: Hate to say it, Siggy, but you're probably better off distancing yourself from this girl youre "smitten" with and examining what changes you want to personally make to be happy.
I'm not going to dump one of my oldest and closest friends. Yes, occassional I find myself feeling pained that my love for her would never be returned, but I am completely happy that she and I have our friendship.
I'm not advocating "dumping her" but at least keep yourself (marginally) emotionally distant: a person really can govern how intensly they feel for another person. As un-romantic as that sounds, practicality prevails when love does not. Dont set yourself up for heartache: holding out false hope that a person's feelings will change is no way to live.
Posted by Siegfried (Member # 29) on :
But I don't hold out a false hope that her feelings for me will intensify. I know that she will never ever in a million and one years feel the same way about me as I do her. I don't dwell on the fact that I love her and will never have the love come back my way. I accept the hand that fate/God/The Supreme Power of Those Powers That Be dealt me with her.
All I said is that I occassionally reflect on everything I've experienced with her and feel something (regret, remorse, sadness, melancholy, what have you) that things never worked out between us. This is a common reflection for me: looking back on my life and thinking about all my mistakes and missed opportunities. I feel the same thing about the other women I've felt passionately about; the only difference is that I'm no longer friends with the others for various reasons.
Posted by Jason Abbadon (Member # 882) on :
Feelings are bad: they should be bottled up.
...but then they'd just think you were acting "vulcan" or something. (sigh!)
Thought about an escort? Could certainly broaden your horizons, nad there's nothing morally wrong wiith that. Posted by Siegfried (Member # 29) on :
Feelings aren't inherently bad. They can be depending on how one acts upon them. The same is also about feelings being good. Feelings are just a catalyst, essentially.
As for an escort... why bother? I don't like to waste my money, and I consider paying someone to fake being my girlfriend for a while to be a grand waste of money that could go towards buying computer equipment, Zoids models, Trek merchandise, or a politician. My rationale for not dropping a wad on a prostitute is similar.
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