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[QUOTE]Originally posted by Peregrinus: [QB] All I want clarified, Epoch, is how you define "takign advantage". Granted, in Shik's case, something unexpected happened (be it misunderstanding or personality shift or parental wrath), but barring that, this was something long-term... The age of majority is a silly thing, as I have ranted about elsewhere. 18 is a pretty durn arbitrary age to draw such an important line. I know many people in their 40s and 50s who can't really manage their lives, and many people in their mid-teens who are better-equipped to manage their lives than their own parents. My fiancee is/was one such case. When we met, I was 24 and she was 13. Her mom introduced us. And -- no exaggeration -- if we hadn't met, she would probably have killed herself by now. We worked through a lot of ugly shit about ourselves and our relationship, all out of our love and commitment to each other. She's become a hell of a lot more comfortable about herself and her ambitions in life since we met, and I applaud her for it. Granted, not every teenager knows who they are and what they want to do in life, but Jen has known since well before we met, and Shik's now-ex seemed to be equally self-possessed prior to this mess. In his case, I think an ex post facto examination of events might be in order, but in mine... Well, the wedding's set for May 1st, 2004, and has been for a few years now. We very quickly realized that we had been effectively intended for each other, by genetics and temperament if not some higher power. Now I ask you, am I taking advantage of her? Or would you rather she hook up with someone her own age who has no life experience and whose only interest is to see if he can get into her pants? In the years we've known each other 90% of the guys she's met have been after only one thing, and that thing ain't long-term, let me tell you. Plus, most of the guys she's run into in and around school aren't even remotely on her intellectual or emotional level. I like to think her mom knew what she was doing when she introduced us. *heh* I understand the desire to protect your charges, but I've seen a lot of cases where that impulse found the wrong target. In the case of me and Jen, well, she's already had to deal with four guys at her high school who couldn't seem to understand the meaning of the word 'no'. Thank God she knows both hockey and tae kwon do... --Jonah [/QB][/QUOTE]
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