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[QUOTE]Originally posted by Lee: [QB] Good God, trickychops, they sold you the whole package, didn't they? That's an insane amount of work. Here're Lee's handy tips on getting married. . . First of all, if you think that you won't be properly married unless you do the full monty (not the strip act, mind) then maybe you need to question whether you're getting married for the sake of it, or because you really want to marry yer feeoncee. Next, to minimize parental interference, threaten to elope unless you do things your way. Don't use this tactic lightly, it's the nuclear option, but you'll know when the time comes to deploy it. For us it was when my Mum, not convinced by our plan to have a buffet reception at a local Tapas bar, said she'd call round a few of the local country-house hotels. Now, we were buggered if we were going to all sit round little tables and be fed half-cooked veg on silver service by schoolgirls in black skirts doing their Saturday job. Location can be important. If you believe in God, then good luck to you, you can go off and do the whole church bit. This also comes into play if the bride-to-be is determined to get married in her local church in front of 150 friends, relatives and people you've never met but her parents want to impress. That's the traditional way. For us, neither of us came from London, but it's where we met and where we lived (in sin, BTW). So that's where we got married. Early plans to get married in Greenwich registry office (v. photogenic, Greenwich, we thought) came to nothing when we found out that the RO is actually in the middle of a shopping precinct in Woolwich. So we ended up at our local RO, Waltham Forest, which was set in lovely grounds in a former cottage hospital. Nice wedding room, too, with seating for 45. Which brings us nicely to the guest list. If you're a shallow person who is desperate to impress everyone you've ever met, then 45 people isn't going to cut it. But if that's the case, then as I've already said you're on your own. For us, 45 seemed more than ample until my Dad pointed out that a lot of his relatives from Scotland would want to come. In fact we didn't have a problem with them being there, it just never occurred to us they'd make such a long trip for, well, me. Then it became quite a struggle to fit everyone in. You next tip, then, is this: if one or other family starts quibbling because they want more of 'their' people to come, and start targetting you and your betrothed's mutual friends, then split the list down the middle, get all your family on one side, and as many of the friends you can; and deduct a similar amount from the other side of the list. Give the remaining list of places to them and say "There, that's your lot." Let them stress over who to invite! You can use more than personalised wedding vows to express yourselves in your wedding plans. As mentioned, we had out reception in a Tapas bar. No arranged seating, we booked the whole place (it was somewhere we went often and the owner, she did us proud), made sure there was something on the pre-arranged buffet menu for everyone's tastes, and everyone had a great time. In the evening we moved on to a local cricket pavilion, had another buffet and a disco with another hundred-odd guests coming. That's the one thing I'd have done differently - either not bothered with the party, it was a bit of an anticlimax; or had a live band, dixieland jazz or something to get everyone up and on the floor. Wedding outfits. Kate had a proper wedding dress, with shoes, tiara etc. I bought myself a new designer suit (black, of course - all my suits are black) and matching ties for me, best man and two ushers. The two bridesmaids - the hell with those horrible-coloured outfits - each had a navy-blue velour trouser suit. Flower-girl and page boy (my cousin, her nephew, respectively) got little outfits. All these roles were pretty useless in the context of a registry wedding but they were there because they were members of our family or circle of friends who we wanted to be involved. Photographs: TAKE CONTROL. Scope the outside of wherever you get married, spot suitable locations, make a list of groups you want snapped. We were at another family wedding and my Mum and I were watching the husband of one of my cousins, who's a wedding photographer and was doing the honours. Mum was kee for us to use him. He proceded to snap every possible combination of guests in five separate locations. The photographs took two hours! Mum never mentioned using him again, my best man doubled as photographer and the results were excellent. We had a brilliant wedding and don't regret any part of it. And the cost! Stuff the average-wedding-costs-fifteen-grand lark, our wedding (not counting clothes) cost two thousand pounds for reception (food, drink, champage during start and final toasts), party-hall hire, party buffet and disco. And people still rave about what a fun time they had. I hate weddings, so much so I was intending never to get married at all (until I met someone who I wanted to marry): but our wedding was the best one I've ever been to. And that's the way it should be. [/QB][/QUOTE]
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