quote:Originally posted by Jason Abbadon: Hate to say it, Siggy, but you're probably better off distancing yourself from this girl youre "smitten" with and examining what changes you want to personally make to be happy.
I'm not going to dump one of my oldest and closest friends. Yes, occassional I find myself feeling pained that my love for her would never be returned, but I am completely happy that she and I have our friendship.
I'm not advocating "dumping her" but at least keep yourself (marginally) emotionally distant: a person really can govern how intensly they feel for another person. As un-romantic as that sounds, practicality prevails when love does not. Dont set yourself up for heartache: holding out false hope that a person's feelings will change is no way to live.
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But I don't hold out a false hope that her feelings for me will intensify. I know that she will never ever in a million and one years feel the same way about me as I do her. I don't dwell on the fact that I love her and will never have the love come back my way. I accept the hand that fate/God/The Supreme Power of Those Powers That Be dealt me with her.
All I said is that I occassionally reflect on everything I've experienced with her and feel something (regret, remorse, sadness, melancholy, what have you) that things never worked out between us. This is a common reflection for me: looking back on my life and thinking about all my mistakes and missed opportunities. I feel the same thing about the other women I've felt passionately about; the only difference is that I'm no longer friends with the others for various reasons.
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Feelings are bad: they should be bottled up.
...but then they'd just think you were acting "vulcan" or something. (sigh!)
Thought about an escort? Could certainly broaden your horizons, nad there's nothing morally wrong wiith that.
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Feelings aren't inherently bad. They can be depending on how one acts upon them. The same is also about feelings being good. Feelings are just a catalyst, essentially.
As for an escort... why bother? I don't like to waste my money, and I consider paying someone to fake being my girlfriend for a while to be a grand waste of money that could go towards buying computer equipment, Zoids models, Trek merchandise, or a politician. My rationale for not dropping a wad on a prostitute is similar.
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