quote: I can safely say that after that, asking her father for permission to marry his daughter was a doddle.
Yay for the nineteenth century!!
Although on one occasion I did forget my own name when asking a girl out. Which was... interesting. I'm 17 and so probably can't give any commentary on true love. Also I wouldn't want to sound soppy. It'd ruin my manly image.
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I met my first love in seventh grade. I gradually came to love her; it was ninth grade when I acknowledged my feelings for her to myself. We've been friends for twelve years now, and every now and then it'll feel like my love for her has subsided. Then, something happens that reminds me I am still smitten with her.
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Don'cha just hate those? I've got you beaten by about four years, but very similar pattern.
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I don't have relationship issues. The two guys I've dated so far are two of the most wonderful guys of my aquaintance, and I still call them close friends. I do, however, have situational issues. My last guy I dated for just under two months. In the last few weeks of that his mother found out she had cancer, and being the wonderful guy he is, he will be taking care of her and dealing with issues surrounding her illness and thus has no time to date. *sigh* In the meantime, I am investing in vibrators.
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We knew we were going to get married. I wasn't that bothered, but Kate felt it was important. And I'm glad we did - it changes things in ways that are difficult to describe. It felt like the most natural thing in the world.
Anyway, yes. Asking her father. As I said, we decided we were getting married but I hadn't formally proposed yet. I was vaguely planning to ask her when we were in Venice; however, about a month prior to that we were down visiting her parents and the idea sort of evolved that I'd ask her dad for permission. I did, and formally proposed later that evening when we got home. It meant that we had time to go out and get a ring - she chose it, I'd never have got the right one; then have it sized to her finger. Then when we were in Venice, in a gondola on the Grand Canal not far from the Rialto bridge, I put it on her finger. 8)
As for wanting to find someone to love. . . Don't. I always knew that something was missing from my life. I tried looking for it. I tried replacing it, with work, drugs, meaningless gratuitous sex, and arguing on the Internet with a bunch of other misfits about politics, morality, and the length of a small starship from a TV show. Then, one day I gave up, decided I was destined to be alone. Then I went out to a works do where this PA from the Employment Law department who I didn't like very much started chatting to me. The rest is history. Or rather, chemistry, with a certain amount of biology thrown in, if you know what I mean.
OK, so I don't mean "never look for someone to love." Just, don't set too much store by it. Your lobsters are out there, and you will find them. You're meant to find them. Have faith that the universe will unfold as it should, remember that?
So, just, be patient. Watch When Harry Met Sally again to see all the many ways you could fall in love. Perhaps Liz will go in to upgrade her car's sound system, they'll have this hunky new salesman in the shop, their eyes will meet over a Bang & Olufsen subwoofer, and ZING! Or Siggy's friend could sit down one day and take stock of the men in her life and realise that there's one guy that's always been there for her. Don't undervalue friendship, it's very important in any lasting relationship. Kate's my best friend, and I'm hers.
quote:Originally posted by Tora Regina: I don't have relationship issues. The two guys I've dated so far are two of the most wonderful guys of my aquaintance, and I still call them close friends. I do, however, have situational issues. My last guy I dated for just under two months. In the last few weeks of that his mother found out she had cancer, and being the wonderful guy he is, he will be taking care of her and dealing with issues surrounding her illness and thus has no time to date. *sigh* In the meantime, I am investing in vibrators.
Investing in them!?! While not speaking from experience, I cant recall seeing them on the NASDAQ.
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quote:Originally posted by Lee: I tried replacing it, with work, drugs, meaningless gratuitous sex,
When, where, and can I have some?
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OMG... and to think this thread came from a suggestion after someone hijacked my own thread.
At least there was some meaningful insights about realationships and love that was between the more raunchy posts, including my own.
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Actually, I was wondering where Lee was getting the gratuitous sex from. I mean, if he can get it, then surely I can get twice as much. Yeah. Woo.
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quote:Originally posted by Lee: Don't undervalue friendship, it's very important in any lasting relationship. Kate's my best friend, and I'm hers.
Shik's been telling me the same thing in our correspondence. I believe in the sentiment; every woman I've ever developed romantic feelings for has been someone I've considered a friend. A lot of my friends' relationships started as friendships. No argument from me on this.
quote:Or Siggy's friend could sit down one day and take stock of the men in her life and realise that there's one guy that's always been there for her.
And while I appreciate the thought, it's not going to happen. She's married now and has been for two years now. She loves him truly and completely; she's the happiest that I have ever seen her. I finally got a chance to meet the lucky guy when I visited them last summer. He's one of the nicest guys I've ever met, and his love for her is as great as hers is for him. They are very happy together and, I hope that nothing causes harm to the love they share.
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"Shik's been telling me the same thing in our correspondence."
Um... Need I point out that Shik's current position rather suggests that he may not exactly be the top expert on matters of "true love"?
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