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Posted by Saltah'na (Member # 33) on :

After so many years of putting up with the authoritarian/dictatorial/undemocratic rule of my mother, I'm finally moving out.

Keep in mind that I'm not overreacting. My mother has been demanding that I leave the house for quite some time now. She believes that if she had her way, I would have been outta there after I turned 19 (damned chinese tradition says that the parent has no obligation to the child after their 19th birthday).

I've already made a down payment for two months rent at a place not far from where I am presently working. Moving in date is Nov 1. Despite this, I am currently experiencing a terrible sensation of PANIC!!!!!!

Is this normal?

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[This message has been edited by Tahna Los (edited October 26, 2000).]

Posted by First of Two (Member # 16) on :

Yes, it's normal.

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Posted by PsyLiam (Member # 73) on :

Completely normal.

You moving in by yourself, or are you sharing with other people?

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Posted by Saltah'na (Member # 33) on :

5 other people.

It's actually a house, with 2 kitchens. I get a room in the basement.

Unfortunately, no TV, I'll have to get my own, and I won't be getting a computer, it belongs to my parents.

Because of this, after Nov 1, I won't be able to have access to the internet unless I'm at work or at school. As well, I'll be using a WebICQ client (Web based, not client based), so that I can log into my contact list without needing to have an actual client.

There are so many things that are going through my head. I have at most $6000 in life savings, and I have a full time job. But I feel uneasy about all this for some reason.

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"My Name is Elmer Fudd, Millionaire. I own a Mansion and a Yacht."
Psychiatrist: "Again."

Posted by LOA (Member # 49) on :

Tahna, what you're feeling is COMPLETELY normal. As someone who is out on her own AT the age of 19, I can totally empathise with your thoughts. It's kinda scary knowing that you will have to make your own decisions, and knowing that if something goes wrong, you'll have to think for yourself, before going to your family. HOwever, I can assure you that you'll get through it just fine. Especially since you've got a fairly large savings account to draw from if things get rough... make sure to keep that account intact, because you never know what'll come up.... and aside from that, you're going to find out that while things are DIFFERENT now, you'll learn to cope and adapt pretty quickly....

I've been on my own for quite a while, and I don't even HAVE family to go back to in case of emergency... I have no savings account, and have been litterally living pay check to pay check for MONTHS, and still not QUITE making it since the accident... but you know what? Things still aren't so bad.. just keep your head on straight, and you'll be fine. I guarentee it.... :-)

Have fun with this! Don't let it become a huge stress.. you only move out once, so you may as well enjoy it :-)

~LOA

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Posted by Shik (Member # 343) on :

I've been on my own for 7 years now...& I'm STILL panicking. I'm attempting to accumulate $2500 to move to State College, PA, to be near someone who doesn't even WANT me (Can we say "stalker," children? I think we CAN..)& I know that once I leave here...there IS no coming back if things don't work out. I WILL be utterly alone knowing only about 5 people in the entire area & not knowing how to get around. Panic, indeed.

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Posted by Teelie (Member # 280) on :

I'll be moving out (hopefully, probably) in August 2001 after getting enough saved to move permanently.

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Posted by Malnurtured Snay (Member # 411) on :

I moved out about a year and a half ago. Sure, it was kinda scary and depressing, but I got over that real quick. I didn't have NEARLY that much money to draw on from a saving account, either -- I live payday to payday (and every day I work is payday -- gotta love tips!)

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Posted by TSN (Member # 31) on :

Okay, I swear I did not say that quote in Liz' sig!

What I said is "Purple elephants are conquering my pants! Weasels to the rescue!". It's out of context, sure, but it's funnier that way...

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Posted by Ritten (Member # 417) on :

No, panic is getting in to a country you have only the slightist clue on how to communicate with the locals. That's why I like England so much..... I could understand!!!!!!
The panic is normal, especially if you have a large family. Although, usually once people get out there and get all their ducks in a row, people enjoy the freedom and challange.
Good luck to you....

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Stupid bastards and religious freaks,
so safe in their castle keeps...

Posted by TSN (Member # 31) on :

You can understand the English? Half the time, I don't even understand the ones who post here, and that's minus the accents... :-)

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Posted by Ritten (Member # 417) on :

Mostly, but it beats the heck out of my understanding of German/Spanish/French/etc.......

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Stupid bastards and religious freaks,
so safe in their castle keeps...

Posted by PsyLiam (Member # 73) on :

That's because we speak English in the good way of correctness. Cor blimey. Mate. And so on.

Posted by Saltah'na (Member # 33) on :

Moving day is today.

Wish me luck

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"My Name is Elmer Fudd, Millionaire. I own a Mansion and a Yacht."
Psychiatrist: "Again."

Posted by The Talented Mr. Gurgeh (Member # 318) on :

Go n-eir� leat.(Good luck in Gaelic)

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Posted by Kosh (Member # 167) on :

Good Luck Tanha. I may well be wrong, but I think you will thank your mother for this one day. Nothing will teach you to take care of yourself faster then haveing to.

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Posted by LOA (Member # 49) on :

Amen to that.

~LOA

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"The purple elephants have conquered my pants! Weasels to the rescue!!!" ~TSN, Oct. 23, 2000

Posted by Saltah'na (Member # 33) on :

Moving day complete.

Whole new place is a mess. Nothing organized.

GF will be giving me a desk along with a lamp for my room.

Also found out some "unforseen" things yesterday. For example, Cable is $20/month extra, while I have to set up my own phone line. That'll cost me another $25/month.

Fortunately, I'll have my cellphone with me. Unlimited weeknights and weekends option. Gotta love it.

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"My Name is Elmer Fudd, Millionaire. I own a Mansion and a Yacht."
Psychiatrist: "Again."

Posted by PsyLiam (Member # 73) on :

Oh no. Cable is expensive! The horror. Without cable, you'd be like a poor person, with their pizza's and poor clothes.

Posted by Diane (Member # 53) on :

Cable is $30-something a month in L.A. My mom doesn't want us to watch too much tv, so we don't have it at home. Of course, we get free cable in university housing.

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Posted by TSN (Member # 31) on :

I think it's around $30/mo. around here. We don't have it 'cause my parents are too cheap to pay for it. Not that it'd be worth it, aside from the Sci-Fi Channel and some of the educational ones...

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Sometimes I'll say that no, he has, in fact, passed away.
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Posted by PsyLiam (Member # 73) on :

"Of course, we get free cable in university housing."

WHAT? We barely get a reception from terrestrial TV. And we have to buy our own TV licences. And I have to share a shower with about 12 other people. I tell ya, it's a squeeze getting everyone in their at once. And Eric keeps looking at me funny. But so does Sarah. So that's okay.

Our bars quite cheap though. Pity the closest cash machine is 10 minutes walk. Damn those Carnatic boys with their shop and cash machine and sex. Damn them all.

Posted by Malnurtured Snay (Member # 411) on :

I've been on my own (sorta) for about a year and a half.

I say sorta 'cuz I've got a roomate. But only for six more months, then I get my own nice little one bedroom up yonder in Cockeysville.

So, in the next six months, I have to:

-Save up a security and pet deposit (probably about $700 all together)

-Pay off at least ONE of my credit cards (my goal!)

-Buy a TV ('cuz the one I have now is my roomies)

Course, living on my own won't be much fun either ... I'm not going to have someone to split cable, electric, OR phones with ... but I don't use the phone that much, I'm pretty good with turning off lights and A/C when I'm not around, and cable is a flat rate, so ...

But, hey, it'll be fun. I'm looking forward to moving. My own place, almost done with college ... =)

Then I can go get my law degree in Bahstan (er, that's spelled according to how it is pronounced, BTW)

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Posted by TSN (Member # 31) on :

Your telephone bill isn't a flat rate? Or are you only talking about long-distance?

Posted by Malnurtured Snay (Member # 411) on :

Long distance sucks.

Posted by PsyLiam (Member # 73) on :

Stupid non-flat rate BT bastards. *mumble mumble* smother to death *mumble mumble*

BTW Jeff, that pizza and sex thing is one of the worst analogies ever, and not true, unless you've been a very, very lucky boy.

Posted by Ritten (Member # 417) on :

Yeah, getting a decent pizza here is a bitch.....

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Posted by Shik (Member # 343) on :

Jeffrey!!
www.usadatanet.com

WELL worth it.

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Posted by TSN (Member # 31) on :

I've never tried it, but I'm told that dialpad.com is a good way to make long-distance calls. Basically, you just hook up a headset to your computer and make your calls for free over the 'net.

Posted by Malnurtured Snay (Member # 411) on :

So, Tahna, out of curiousity, how is your own place working out for you?

I'm currently trying to figure out how I'm going to cram all my stuff (junk/crap) into my new place.

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Posted by Saltah'na (Member # 33) on :

Place #1: Utter crap. Landlord was to put in a laundry room quite a while ago. Reneged on the promise and turned the laundry room into yet another room. Still upset about it. The last straw was a stubborn leak that damaged some of my posters that needed replacing anyways. The topology surrounding the place is so horrible that a water basin formed in the wall of my room. Ugh.

Place #2: Moving in tomorrow. Newly renovated, only one kitchen and bathroom, and will be sharing it with FIVE other people. :-/ Room is VERY small, hopefully, it will be enough to fit in a desk, dresser, end table, TV and a bed. On the bright side, it's relatively cheap, $100 less than my present place.

Well, that's reality.

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"My Name is Elmer Fudd, Millionaire. I own a Mansion and a Yacht."
Psychiatrist: "Again."

Posted by Curry Monster (Member # 12) on :

Reality bites =) I know the feeling. Still, as afraid as I am of saying this, look on the bright side. At least you're not in a garbage can. Though, by the sound of it, one of those large ones may be more roomy.

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