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Well, I explained earlier that I might divulge a few details regarding my most recent "adventure" (read: divorce). I'm doing this not so much to unburden my soul as for theraputic reasons. If this turns out to be the wrong forum for it, I'm sure The_Tom will move this thread (and hopefully leave a forwarding address so I can find it).
The day before the court appearance, I discovered, through my Attorney, that I had been legally divorced from That Woman (hereinafter referred to as "TW" since December 21st of 1999. The final details (child support, division of property, etc.), were to be decided before the Judge.
On April 18, 2000, the Judge decided that TW and I would swap cars (I wound up with the minivan, but she has to pay for the Chrysler), and that she would retain all other property in her possession, and I would retain all property in mine. Well, I suppose I can someday replace the washer and dryer.
We have joint custody of Jordan (my son). This means that I have him every Tuesday for 3 hours, and alternating weekends. Plus, I'll have him for 2 weeks in the summer. She gets him the rest of the time.
TW also gets approximately 1/4 of my take-home pay for child support. I don't begrudge a penny of it as long as it's actually used to support Jordan. However, this leaves me paying a large number of bills we accumulated jointly, for which she retains the actual property. While I haven't got any disposable income to speak of. For example, if I want to take in a movie, I might have to skip lunch one or two days (or make dinner of a sandwich -- not a bad prospect, actually). If I want to go out and possibly meet someone, it had better be at the laundromat or the library.
I'm not as bitter as I was, and my prospects of getting the bills caught up and maybe doing something for fun (apart from reading or watching TV) is not far off (perhaps 2 or 3 months, if I'm a real tight-fisted S.O.B. ). For now, I just go to work and come home. At least I still have the dog.
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This would probably not be out of place in the Lounge, if someone wanted to move it. I don't see anyone disagreeing with you, Baloo. And if they do, we'll hit them.
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Well, it's an ancient computer, but it still works.
Bonus: I finally managed to reinstall IE5.01, and this time it works! Goodbye, Netscape confuser. Ye were a good help while I deeded ye, but your constant locking up, refusing to respond to keyboard imputs, and glacial slowness enable me to kick yer tuchass off me computer with nary a twitch of conscience!
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Apparently, she hasn't been skipping lunches, and according to one phone message I had from her place of employment a couple weeks ago, she hasn't told her boss about her new address and phone number. I called and gave them the correct information -- I hope she didn't mind .
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In the long term, money aside you're far better off. At least you have peace of mind when you are at home, rather than conflict.
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Divorces. Aren't they so much fun? I think everyone should try them sometime...
Seriously though. That sucks. It's too bad about how you got screwed on the settlement. I think you got screwed at least.... damned lawyers (if there are any lawyers here, then "you bastards!" [just teasing] )
). For now, I just go to work and come home. At least I still have the dog.
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