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I feel awful saying this after Liam's raised such valid points, but. . .
quote:Originally posted by First of Two: Yes. Long talk, blah-blah, apologies offered, blah-blah, agreements reached, blah-blah, some matters of my own fault taken, blah-blah, a couple of nights of uninterrupted power sleeping, blah-blah, situation improving, blah blah.
What?! Where's the make-up sex? You gotta have the make-up sex! You can't miss out the make-up sex! 8)
Seriously though...well, what I said. If I wasn't out of line, or being rude. And even if I was, think about. Please?
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Having been near enough to his type of relationship I can tell you that he will, almost certainly, be back in the same condition in 3 to 6 months. If it was like my case it is ingrained for her to behave this way, so without true professional help and her admitting that she has a control/attention problem, like an alcoholic, will remain the same, tearing Rob down month after month, leading him into the abyss that is all but inecapable.
The best thing that happened was that she decided that I wasn't going to change to fit her like a glove and told me hat I was being replaced by anyone of her several lovers, lettin me get away and get my mind straight, er somewhat anyhow, and see things from a different perspective.
Then in an need to revenge on life I did the same thing that happened to me, by becoming the other man, caught myself ripping a marriage apart, and left town....
I do hope that his case is far different than my little episode.....
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Love is never having to say "I invoke my fifth amendment right against self incriminaton".
-------------------- Justice inclines her scales so that wisdom comes at the price of suffering. -Aeschylus, Agamemnon
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We will see what we will see. I'll let you know in 3-6 months.
She has admitted that she has some personal emotional control issues. Also I have, perhaps, in my zeal to try and help "fix" her life, made her too dependent on me, this is true. We're going to talk about these things with her counselor.
We have an appointment with what is supposed to be a good pain clinic next week, and we're both hopeful that they will put her on a regimen that will ease her pain enough to allow her to recover some of her strength and take a more active role. All of her issues stem from the feeling of helplessness that not being able to do much of anything gives her. If we can take care of that, we're hopeful that the rest of the problems will begin to moderate.
Re: Make-up sex: Postponed until her throat infection clears up. TMI.
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-------------------- "Lotta people go through life doing things badly. Racing's important to men who do it well. When you're racing, it's life. Anything that happens before or after is just waiting."
-Steve McQueen as Michael Delaney, LeMans
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Congrats 1ST, that is the step Dee would never take with me, you may have this beat...
-------------------- "You are a terrible human, Ritten." Magnus "Urgh, you are a sick sick person..." Austin Powers A leek too, pretty much a negi.....
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I'm the one who pushed this relationship from the beginning, who took what might have been a simple uncomplicated friendship and turned it into a date, then a steady relationship, then an engagement. Despite numerous attempts on her part to keep me at arm's length and even turn me away, I remained steadfast and obstinate that I COULD do it all and handle it all. I drew her in. Only the last step, her moving in to my new place, was initiated by her... and I wholeheartedly agreed at the time.
And now I find myself thinking that, if I had really known then what I know now, maybe I wouldn't have done it... but the truth is, I didn't believe it when she told me what the truth would turn out to be then, so I probably would have anyway. Argh.
Oh, I hate it when my problems are all my own doing... I'd much rather blame somebody else.
-------------------- "The best defense is not a good offense. The best defense is a terrifyingly accurate and devastatingly powerful offense, with multiply-overlapping kill zones and time-on-target artillery strikes." -- Laurence, Archangel of the Sword
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